Friday, 27 September 2013

Grounded

Now I am a pretty impulsive person in nearly all aspects, especially in speech. I am incapable of thinking before I say (Or even sometimes send) something, I tend to say the first thing that comes to my mind, and this doesn't really help me when trying to attract members of the opposite sex. I do have my fair share of female friends but they keep around because I'm like their yapping Jack Russel, I make for good conversation most of the time, but do they fuck me? Well actually yes some of them do but it's a paltry amount. Now I feel it's only fair to you for making it this far that I reward you with a cure and get you sounding smooth as James Bond for once alright here it is:

First go youtube Elliot Hulse watch his videos on grounding exercises and stretches, this is just to train yourself so you can start breathing DEEP or as the man's mantra goes "Breath into your Balls" it'll improve your voice and make you like 200% more level headed.

Second some simple neck strengthening exercises to strengthen your neck muscles, (You can do them on your bed don't be a bitch), one is lay on your bed facing upwards while everything from the shoulders up is off the bed (Your head almost in mid air) Drop your head back to your right and raise it to your left side 
about 15 times do it for both sides, this is also just to deepen your voice

Last but not least, this is a bit more spiritual and esoteric in nature, you want to withhold anything you want to say until you've confirmed it internally, don't analyse everything you say but just wait for some lights to go off inside before you spew the shit you want to say, take a "it's a No until I get a Yes" approach to what you want to say, trust me people will treat you like you're important if you feel what you have to say is important enough that it must wait.
To clarify here's the quote from Jonathan Zap: "A woman I know has been practicing a wonderful inner discipline that accords with the I Ching principle of holding back. She calls the practice “inner yes.” Until a choice lights up in her whole body and being, an inner yes, then the answer is no and she waits. This takes patience, but saves her from many costly mistakes. Similarly, the I Ching puts a high value on reticence, holding back with spoken words and other actions, until you are sure you have the inner yes. When you are dealing with a captive audience, for example while riding in a vehicle, I believe that a moral person should have strong inhibitory filters before they speak. If I speak to a captive audience I am usually blocking any members of that audience from being able to effectively concentrate on their own thoughts. So before I encroach on the perceptual space of the other, I ought to be convinced that what I have to say is something they need to hear, or that it at least has sufficient entertainment value, as compared to me venting or indulging the narcissistic urge to capture attention."

Bonus: Don't Give a fuck about what others think about what you have to say, if it feels right with you internally then don't hold anything back, Express YOUR truth!

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